How many times have you found yourself in auto pilot, responding to, "How are you?" with, "I'm doing well." Are you really?
We do this because we have not told ourselves that we are not okay. When we lack transparency with ourselves, we cannot be honest externally, Something as simple as not telling ourselves the truth could very well be the catalyst for tough experiences. When we tell others that we are okay, we feel obligated to seem like it. We mask our true feelings with material things. We put on an extra layer of make-up. We become a little flashier with our purchases. We become critical and judgemental of others. We gossip. We hide behind sex, alcohol, cheap thrills and vacations. We even get into platonic & intimate relationships. How dare we build bonds with this persona? Some of us get married too! We all know that anything built from a lie comes towering down eventually. One choice plays into the next. Before you know it, we have a mountain to move. Moving the moutain won't suffice if we do not get to the root. Where there is a root, the cycle will always exist.
THE PRACTICE OF MINDFULNESS
"Mindfulness is a mental state achieved by focusing one's awareness on the present moment, while calmly acknowledging and accepting one's feelings, thoughts, and bodily sensations."
"How am I Feeling Today"
Asking ourselves this simple question and answering it won't necessarily feel good but it is just what we need to produce authentic fulfilling experiences. Feeling like crap is common. It is 100% okay. That's not even the best part. Drum roll please! You don't even need to know why you feel like crap. Making the observation within ourselves and acknowledging it is so profound. It gives us the ability to be there for ourselves like we've never been. When we do not acknowledge how we truly feel, we are neglecting our own emotions. How often do you leave yourself hanging?
How healthy is your relationship with yourself? How are you?
Don't tell me. Tell yourself